of virginity and relationships

Taken from Aaron Leow Thean Loon:

girls, you should always give your first time to the person who marries you, literally marry, not the kind that says he will marry you..

it always pains me to see a lot of girls get into such a bad shape when they break up with someone who took away all their "first"s....and the reasons that they gave up their first time(regardless of what actions they are) are downright silly...so here i am, trying to tell you what are guys' mentality towards relationships in general...

first of all, a gf, does not need to entertain all of her bf's sexual needs...there is no guidebook on how to be a gf that says a girl needs to do that...so girls please don't...
there are a lot of excuses a guy will make up in order to sleep with you, first of all, there's the famous "if you love me, then you'll do it for me", then there is the "since we're getting married anyway, so why wait?" PLEASE WAIT!!, and then there's also the kind where he pretends to be "kesian" and when you reject him so that you'll give in to his demands....

of course, i will have to say, a guy will always give you all the best promises or gifts when he wants something from you....he will butter you up with sweet words or treat you especially nice like a gentleman from some rom-com movies...and even after you give him your "first" time...regardless of which "first" is it with number X guys, as long as it's first between you and him, then he'll be nice to you, just for A WHILE though...after you've done that, he'll know that he's got you right by the neck...he knows that you'll stick by him no matter what, because you've given him something that you want back, but ultimately can't take back....like what people always say, the person who controls the relationship is the person who cares less...now, the guy will be the person who cares less...so he holds that power....
but i have good news for you, you need not worry, you'll find a better guy than that jerk...

secondly, if you're no longer a virgin, if you meet someone you really really do love and loves you as much after breaking up with that first jerk, if you're honest with him, if he really does love you, then he will accept you no matter who've you been, or what you've done before...but that doesn't mean that he won't feel hurt that you've lost your virginity to someone else, and although he feels that within him, he will not tell you about it, because he knows, if he discusses that with you, then you'll probably feel guilty, and he does not want you to feel that way, therefore, he would rather keep it inside him, and not say a single thing for fear of hurting you...

thirdly, many of you might think that university might be a good place and time to start trusting your partner and that you're headed for a marriage soon enough...well, there's no definition on how to measure maturity but i can tell you, most guys are still not mature when they're in uni...some never do grow up!! ahaha...(me included)

last but not least, if you feel that you've been cheated in a relationship before, not only like third party and stuff, but how the other person has treated you before...please don't dwell on it and make your own life miserable, because i can tell you, honestly, that person does not care anymore, and if you've feel what you've done has been so wrong and nothing else can undo all that you've done before, always remember that there is a GOD who loves you so so so much, and he will forgive you, only if you ask...

yes, you may not get your virginity back in this case, but if He can make you "born-again" and create the whole world, there's nothing that He cannot do...

ps: this is written by somebody else, but i've translated it and added into it a bit of my own...please share this with ppl whom you really care about...